>>While I love that the car locks itself and I never worry about forgetting it open, can the car 'know' when I am home and not lock by itself?
This is my worry too and you would be amazed to know that our 2020 Corolla (common use car) has the function to let you know (by the Notification system of its app) if you forgot to Lock your car. the system sends a notification and lets you know that. And of course then you can remotely Lock it.
Once you stop the engine and open your door and don't lock your car (or forget to lock it or the FOB range was not enough) you get the notification.
I was amazed to drive that car. All 2020's Toyotas have standard Safety systems included with them regardless of the grade/model which includes Lane Assist, Lane Centering, Lan Departure, Blind Spot warning, Auto Cruise.....